tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post4730410876431872523..comments2023-11-05T16:14:07.974+08:00Comments on kata kama: Oh Girl..Kama At-Tarawishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11203707782759183847noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-30869287235875547152010-04-06T22:17:54.601+08:002010-04-06T22:17:54.601+08:00Lap - Datuk tu play safe la Lap. Sat lagi ada pula...Lap - Datuk tu play safe la Lap. Sat lagi ada pulak yg kutuk dia tak ikut prosedure. But I agree with you although I know it wont be easy kalau mak dia nak berkeras insist budak piang tu balik kerumah. dia nak kawin lap oi.. susah sungguh noo..<br /> <br />Kay - she's only 'sekolah' smart, not streetsmart. bab hormone dia kalah..<br /><br />Pakmat - hehehe pakmat, i hv always like your 'against the grain' comments. 15 is far too young, under today's circumstances, to marry. dulu2 lain. my granny got married at 16, as was my mom. i agree that the girl's mother was hoping for her child to finish her studies properly so that boleh bantu keluarga in the future.. kesian maknya. bapak entah kemana lesap.<br /><br />KG - good luck KG.. banyakkan bersabar..Kama At-Tarawishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11203707782759183847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-25867607845293850792010-04-05T09:44:51.091+08:002010-04-05T09:44:51.091+08:00Kak Puteri,
Heart wrenching...am going through th...Kak Puteri,<br /><br />Heart wrenching...am going through the same dramas wt my daughter....god's test!KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584884873788010452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-28425309916984769802010-04-04T22:14:28.979+08:002010-04-04T22:14:28.979+08:00..fathers cry, too..and marriage for a girl with p.....fathers cry, too..and marriage for a girl with potential will always be too early, whether after upsr, pmr, spm or college/university..more so to a single mother..for the mother(fathers,too) sees in her as a potential wage earner..someone who will one day bring in the dough in lieu of a missing father..(and where is the father? there is no mention at all about this guy who sowed his seed and left..)yet again, ppl of old married at 14..to another kampong boy of perhaps 18..and with helpful parents, learn to be independent and lived until anak and cucu of which, perhaps we r the cucus or cicits of such marriage..no problem..it is just a matter of how u look at it..I have seen such degil and recalcitrant girls..insisting in getting married even bfore the results of exams are out..normally such marrieages have no chance to succeed..parental pressure is too great..they crumble after a child or two..leaving the child/children with the parents and the daughter/son carving out a fresh future..and to our mind, lesson learned..but couldn't it be nurtured and saved?..yes, I feel for the mother..as I have felt when one of my daughters insisted in getting married after her graduation to a Thai..as mekyam said, they r idiots..but then, shouldn't we give the idiots a chance?..as our great-great grandparents were given?..just my say, lady..don't mean to cross the grain..but..cheers, all the same..:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18068291687504013148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-35641286819634254722010-04-04T18:58:03.908+08:002010-04-04T18:58:03.908+08:00My heart goes to the mother too. I have girls of m...My heart goes to the mother too. I have girls of my own, and at times kecut-kecut perut thinking of what lies out there. <br /><br />Hope someone can put some sense into both the boy and girl. She's smart so would she deny herself chance for a better future. *sigh*kay_leedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02538691439521114684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-4137197508430806112010-04-04T18:44:49.124+08:002010-04-04T18:44:49.124+08:00The Dato' YDP MAIK should had never mentioned ...The Dato' YDP MAIK should had never mentioned the department's provision. He should instead use his common sense/judgement (budibicara) and help the mother regain custody of her love strucked child. The mother should also gather force & help and wrest the girl away. She is a minor and those people in langkawi are keeping her illegally. I say it is no time for a pow wow.لف توف™https://www.blogger.com/profile/17190327523660960919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-67070414852013018622010-04-03T23:16:51.282+08:002010-04-03T23:16:51.282+08:00Normally saya tak garang lagu ni, tapi crita budak...Normally saya tak garang lagu ni, tapi crita budak nie buat darah menyirap naik. Don't talk about menantu yet. Saya baru ada anak tekak, anak mata & anak telinga.لف توف™https://www.blogger.com/profile/17190327523660960919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-20460943298810406022010-04-03T22:45:20.152+08:002010-04-03T22:45:20.152+08:00Lap - wah, garangnya! you will scare many potentia...Lap - wah, garangnya! you will scare many potential menantus away, lap :)Kama At-Tarawishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11203707782759183847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-49999914703637158072010-04-03T22:42:49.055+08:002010-04-03T22:42:49.055+08:00Datuk Jeff & Sherry - I share your sentiment. ...Datuk Jeff & Sherry - I share your sentiment. getting married at 15 is far too young. And she's a smart girl too, academically. she should think about school, not kawin.<br /> <br />Mekyam & Pat - Couldn't have put it any more succinctly. Yup, it's the hormones running wild. I wonder if they think beyond humping. Marriage is a BIG step, it comes with LOTS of responsibilities.<br /><br />Mumsie - Honest to goodness, I feel for you. My mother and her husband (my stepdad) had five daughters and it was mega headaches all the way, until they finally got wed.<br /><br />Nana - Looks fade over time. How long does she think the fellow will remain kacak? Aduii.. what a reason to give..<br /> <br />Kak Teh - You are spot on. Mothers always forgive, no matter what. And I agree about WORDS, they hurt like hell kan Kak Teh..<br /><br />MA - Just like you, MA, I kept drumming into my kids' heads from young about the need to be respectful to their parents just as we had been to ours. Raising children under the current clime is so challenging. Filial piety seems to hv lost its shine..Kama At-Tarawishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11203707782759183847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-63926038879173765482010-04-03T22:40:35.278+08:002010-04-03T22:40:35.278+08:00I would blast the "otak-letak-kat-lutut"...I would blast the "otak-letak-kat-lutut" bf of her out of this world.Period.لف توف™https://www.blogger.com/profile/17190327523660960919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-24718378931917450712010-04-03T20:54:45.299+08:002010-04-03T20:54:45.299+08:00OK, komen balik.
Growing up, my Dad always remin...OK, komen balik.<br /><br /><br />Growing up, my Dad always reminds us that..<i>setitis airmata ibu jatuh kerana hatinya terguris akan bergegar tiang Arasy.."</i> and those words kept ringing in my mind and my head throughout my life. Now with kids of my own, I repeated the same words to them and hoped that Insya Allah it would have the same effect to their conscience as it did to mine.<br /><br /><br />I felt very sorry for the mother and can imagine the pride she must have felt when the girl was announced top scorer; and the hopes she must have haboured for the daughter to pave the way and lead the family out of poverty.<br /><br />I think the girl need counselling to let her know the harsh realities of marriage. Failing which, she just needed a tight slap. Both sides. Sharp stinging slaps....MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09973623821145979625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-25565751744022122102010-04-03T20:47:16.894+08:002010-04-03T20:47:16.894+08:00puteri, My heart goes out to the mother too. When ...puteri, My heart goes out to the mother too. When i read the story, I could imagine how broken she was top have to make that decision to let her daughter go. But we can always guide them so far and then the most aweful thing is when they go against us. Sometimes, it is not the actions but WORDS. But always, we pray that God ampun dosa mereka as our mothers prays the same for us, kan? i always tell my children, go read Nancy Friday's My Mother Myself.Kak Tehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00856864485917633260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-28923094327635173002010-04-03T20:01:20.649+08:002010-04-03T20:01:20.649+08:00Alamak - terhilang? I delete sebab ada typo...and ...Alamak - terhilang? I delete sebab ada typo...and I thot dah publish yang baru...aiyoma aiyopa...panjang lebar tadi. Sat nak bertapa ambil ilham and komen balik...MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09973623821145979625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-28483217865583760742010-04-03T19:15:10.382+08:002010-04-03T19:15:10.382+08:00Aikkk MA, whatever happened to your comment? Tadi ...Aikkk MA, whatever happened to your comment? Tadi ada now takder?Kama At-Tarawishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11203707782759183847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-70470914991397661102010-04-03T19:09:32.672+08:002010-04-03T19:09:32.672+08:00This comment has been removed by the author.MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09973623821145979625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-25336361870118458522010-04-03T19:07:50.355+08:002010-04-03T19:07:50.355+08:00This comment has been removed by the author.MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09973623821145979625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-85875681755186920402010-04-03T19:04:22.145+08:002010-04-03T19:04:22.145+08:00The poor girl will one day regret her actions. Lik...The poor girl will one day regret her actions. Like you my heart went out to the mother. I hope she will come to her sense before it is too late. Handsomeness does not last, hearthrobs can change into eyesores over the years. I actually shuddered at my own 'narrow escapes'. She will end up lamenting "Romeo Romeo where art thou???" (with apologies to Shakespeare and I know this is in the wrong context, nevertheless...)NanaDJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09705873791340029515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-89931197444701093622010-04-03T19:04:01.136+08:002010-04-03T19:04:01.136+08:00I have 4 daughters, kak puteri...i'm scared!I have 4 daughters, kak puteri...i'm scared!mumsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10817869812836730235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-51795981768834019492010-04-03T18:22:10.965+08:002010-04-03T18:22:10.965+08:00Mekyam has taken my words out of my head and put t...Mekyam has taken my words out of my head and put them on this page! <br /><br />So I have to echo: 'no money, no talk'! If they are not financially independent, and still need to live at home with either of their parents - then, the parents have the right to say, 'No'.<br /><br />An obvious case, then, of not having your cake and eating it, too!<br /><br />And I feel that that is true for both my girl and my boy: Get married <i>only</i> when you can afford the wedding, and the life-together afterwards. Until you can, I want only silence on the talk of marriage, etc.<br /><br />And, no, I am not all-about-the-money. But it affords young minds (and bodies) the need to stop and think. <br /><br />And perhaps it will cause them to pause and think of consequences before embarking on things asinine!Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795820209657289652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-68918872280814026332010-04-03T14:42:50.592+08:002010-04-03T14:42:50.592+08:00hormones, that's what it is!
and it's bi...<b>hormones, that's what it is!</b> <br /><br />and it's bigger than all of us, princess. :D<br /><br />perhaps the only thing any parents could do under such circumstances, esp muslim parents, is to ensure the sanctification and legalization of these idiots' desperate need to copulate. <br /><br />however if they are prudent, imho the parents could impose on their children the following conditions:<br /><br />1) the idiots should DEFER STARTING A FAMILY until they are earning their own income(s). in other words, PILLS, CONDOMS, UTERUS RINGS, IUDs, whichever, or even the works!<br /><br />2) FINISH THEIR EDUCATION in order to ensure better income. i.e. NO QUITTING SCHOOL!<br /><br />3) if they are not FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT of their parents, then the PARENTS WILL STILL HAVE A SAY in their life decisions, married or not! <br /><br />this means that they should be told in no uncertain terms that they are getting their own way only because the parents are helpless against raging hormones and the imposition of religious laws and social mores. <br /><br />BUT unless and until they are able to be financially independent and behave like adults, they will still be considered kids (who are legally allowed to have sex) and the parents will not tolerate any further stupidity from them! :Dmekyamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12821403905513232293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-76642583017502146062010-04-03T13:11:40.289+08:002010-04-03T13:11:40.289+08:00As a daughter I have given my mom more than her fa...As a daughter I have given my mom more than her fair share of tears and anger. I remember my angsty teenage years, always thinking that I was old enough to know, and it's my parents who are old-fashioned and did not understand me. Luckily for me, I still had enough sense to avoid anything that was as hazardous as marriage at 15 years old.<br /><br />I hope that someone would be able to talk sense into her, to at least finish her studies before she gets married.Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06277102227429561340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2548373318997308915.post-74650958474613121542010-04-03T10:58:04.567+08:002010-04-03T10:58:04.567+08:00I may be wrong but she will regrat her whole life ...I may be wrong but she will regrat her whole life after the marriage. It doesn't seemed that the 19 yrs old boy and family make much attempt to stop her from her follish wish. She wanted to marry him because he is " Kacak " .... Hope the Jabatan Agama Islam will put sense on her, her boyfriend and family.jaflamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11041838115933471511noreply@blogger.com